How to Heal a Broken Heart

On January 25, 2013 by admin


It’s been over three years since my Ex-Husband and I separated and I still feel the pain in my heart from time to time when I think of him.  Mending a broken heart has never been said to be easy but it is a necessary tool to have as we go through this lovely journey we all call “LIFE”.  Deciding to get a divorce has been one of the hardest decision I have ever made in my life.  It totally cripple me for the first 6 months; the thought of separating my family and moving toward making the decision to divorce a reality.  I would literally cry everyday.  I was in a deep depression and I was suffering from a broken heart.


How I Healed My Broken Heart

 When I got mad at the life that I created for myself I decided that I was in charge of healing  my own broken heart.  I decided not to give up on life and open myself up to all the great possibilities the universe has in store for. Once I realized that I’d been taken over by depression I was able to get my Power back just from admitting it.

First Step 

Don’t ignore that your heart is broken: I remember when we first broke up I was so sad.  I couldn’t eat or sleep.  On the other side of the sadness was angry, bitterness and pain.  I couldn’t move past it or I didn’t want to move on; having the story of what happened was more important of letting it go to create a new story.  My oldest son kept me present; without him being by my side to make me smile or to wipe my tears away I don’t know where I would be.  Unfortunately he witnessed seeing me cry, and at times he was the one thing  that would keep me going, he was what I was living for because he didn’t give up on me.  His pure sweet presence and kinds words of simply saying, “mommy are you ok, what’s wrong mommy please don’t cry’ would snap me back into reality and get me out of my thoughts which were completely in the past.  I know that my sons words encourage me to never give up and to keep going.


“You can die of a broken heart — it’s scientific fact — and my heart has been breaking since that very first day we met. I can feel it now, aching deep behind my rib cage the way it does every time we’re together, beating a desperate rhythm: Love me. Love me. Love me.”

Abby McDonald, Getting Over Garrett Delaney

Second Step

I had to find out what I was truly asking for.  Through this self realization I discover that I  wanted my EX to look at me again the way he did when we first meet.  I wanted to see him as my knight in shining  amour as I did when he would tend to my every need when we were first dating.  No matter what I did, said or tried that method didn’t work.  What did work is that I discovered that I was seeking outside love from someone instead of reaching within to love myself truly.  You see the only way to mend a broken heart is to fill it with SELF LOVE.



Love yourself like you’re the last person on earth.  Stop seeking love from others, when we love ourselves our light from within shines so bright that we illuminate love that penetrates heaven itself.


Third Step

Get Full Of Love; Create a  “Love Box” and write on the outside of the box “I Love Myself”.  Write handwritten love notes to yourself on small pieces of paper or note cards and put them in your box.  You can also put family photos and sweet mementos that remind you of healthy loving relationships in your life.  Open this box every day during the month of February and give yourself the daily gift of love.


With Love,


Neferteri Shepherd, Dedicated to empowering single moms Everywhere!

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